Book details

  • Genre:family & relationships
  • Sub-genre:Bullying
  • Language:English
  • Pages:112
  • Hardcover ISBN:9798317852931

The One on the Bench

Being caged in a family in denial and finding your way out

By Tracy Lukoff

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Overview

Non-fiction series of vignettes in which people shared with the author their family situations. Many of these families had a "Golden Child" who received most, if not all, of the attention from the parents to the detriment of the other child. Invariably there was a narcissist and his/her enabler(s). The failure of the parent or enabler to realize that love is infinite. The one on the bench was the person who was left out, blamed for all the bad things that happened (which they did not do). This book is an effort to show that narcissists are manipulators generally to the detriment of a family member who becomes the "one on the bench."
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Description

In many family relationships, one child or parent requires all the love. They manipulate others to see them as the perfect child or parent. This toxic situation leads to discord and strife in relationships. Often the one becomes a malignant narcissist who demands (and gets) all the attention and love of those who should know better and realize that all children should be loved and treated equally.
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About The Author

Born in 1960, Tracy spent her early years running, biking and sailing around Ocean City, New Jersey. SHe graduated Ocean City High School in the 1970s and went to the Universit of Delaware where she graduated in 1985. Tracy worked in advertising and opened her own business, AllWrite, Inc. She wrote for television sitcoms. In her business, she wrote wdding vows and corporated presentations. Her love of dance led her to develop a dance program for schools to stop bullying. Tracy worked with choreographers in the development of their dance performances. In her spare time, she wrote poetry such as those included in the book, Just Listen. She also wrote about narcissism and its detrimental effect upon family and relationships. The book Darna is about the negative effect of maiignant narcissists on peoples lives. Her untimely death did not allow her to finish her books. This posthumous publication was done to both honor her and her writings.
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