About the author
Since 1994, James M. has utilized the tools of 12 Step meetings, spiritual practice and therapy to overcome alcoholism, drug addiction, sexual abuse, money issues, codependency, and depression. Despite all of this inner-work, he was still unable to control his conflict-oriented outbursts and abusive behavior, which ultimately kept him small in his career and unhappy in his relationships. After a number of confrontations with police regarding domestic violence charges, he sought help by voluntarily enrolling in an anger management course. The education he received was vital in avoiding prison or seriously hurting someone, but not enough to stop the cycle of abuse in his own behavior or the behavior of those he attracted. He would improve for long stretches of time, only to find himself in the same mess months later. Over time these dramatic events worsened. Realizing that his condition was progressive, he recognized the need for a daily routine and reminder of his condition; a consistent program of recovery from violence. Thus, Violence Anonymous was born out of a desire to lead a happy, productive life and an understanding of the power of the 12 Steps. For months James held a "men's only" meeting in Austin, Texas. Occasionally other men joined, but mostly he was alone. He knew that the 12 Steps had saved his life from the torture of alcoholism and drug addiction, so he kept on, praying for warriors with the courage to face this personal and societal malady.
In August of 2005, while speaking in another 12 Step meeting, he admitted his experience to a group of women. At their request, the meeting was opened to everyone with a desire to recover from violence, and life was breathed into the community of Violence Anonymous. Today, people from all over North America, Europe, the UK, the Middle East, and India dial into conference call phone meetings and share their experience, strength, and hope, on the road to overcoming violent behavior in their own lives, one day at a time.