This heart-wrenching story by Vesta Spivakovsky has come to be the first documentary evidence of Parental Alienation in Russia. It is an open and compelling portrayal of parental child abduction that took place in this complex and multi-faceted country. As a foreign reader, this story is of interest for its agonizing drama, trials, and tribulations. In a subtle and captivating way, the author depicts modern Russia's complex and sometimes corrupt political, social, and public life. Moreover, there is constant suspense throughout "Louder than Silence" about what will happen to the mother and her daughter.
This story is a mixture of judicial arbitrariness, blind spots in the law, slanderous dramatizations, and unfair accusations. It is a conflict that has gone beyond the boundaries of one family and linked the fate of hundreds of people across the country and beyond. This is a story that has been long overdue to be told and a subject that desperately needs to be addressed.
The author of the book - Vesta Spivakovsky - a journalist, columnist, television and radio host - faced a problem that became a very real disaster, but remains invisible to most citizens of the country. In 2010, her ex-husband took upon himself to forever alienate her from her daughter.
This book is not just an authorial confession. Its task is to bring the problem of family kidnapping and PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) into the field of public discussion. It is dedicated to parents who are in a similar situation but do not despair and do not give up. And also to all those who care about it at the legislative, social, and personal level.
"Family kidnapping" in Russia not only shown a considerable hole in the legislation but became a full-on disaster, invisible to most citizens of the country. The lack of reaction of the legislation forced Vesta to make public, her personal tragedy in order to again force the government to pay attention to the lack of existing legal mechanisms in resolving family conflicts.
According to international human rights organizations in Russia, between forty-seven and fifty-five thousand minor children disappear every year. "Family kidnapping" in Russia is still not regulated at the legislative level and is discouraged as a topic of discussion in the current political environment.
About the author
Vesta Spivakovsky-Chandler was born in St. Petersburg, Russia (formerly Leningrad, USSR). She is a consummate journalist, TV host, published author, and alienated mother. Vesta's first nonfiction book, "Louder Than Silence" narrates her personal story of her daughter's abduction and her fight against the broken and corrupt system that doesn't even recognize Parental Alienation. After "Louder Than Silence" has been acknowledged as the first book about Parental Alienation in Russia, Vesta joined Parental Alienation Study Group (PASG.info) to continue the public discussion about this invisible pandemic that more people around the world should be aware of.
The second of Vesta's books, "A Whale's Kiss," is an auto-fiction novel dedicated to all victims of violence. It provides self-healing keys to overcome a tragedy, loss, and trauma and help grow from being a victim through connecting to your "Inner Whale."
Vesta's first children's book "I Whale Always Love You, Lippi" was written within 24 hours, when she was given a chance to communicate with her alienated daughter Eksusha after several years of separation. Vesta wanted to explain to Eksusha what exactly had happened to them, using the children's language. Later on, Vesta realized that "I Whale Always Love You, Lippi" has a therapeutic locus. This fairytale offers separated parents and their children a safe space for storytelling, to work through the painful scenarios, overcome the consequences of alienation, and initiate a dialogue to re-establish a deep loving connection.
Currently Vesta is living in the US and working on a book about co-parenting.