Just Stop Picking Losers!

RIght person? Wrong person? Stop ignoring red flags! Start attracting healthy people! Bad relationships and lonely nights can be a thing of the past. It's your choice. The only way that you can start having a good relationship is to stop ignoring the red flags and begin understanding your role in picking the right person. Using stories from people who chose the right person and others who chose the wrong person, Dr. Izzo and Vicki Carpel Miller help you stop repeating history and start picking the right person! This is not your ordinary relationship book. Vicki and Ellie teach you through the Rapid Advance Process to use your thoughts to break the old neurocircuitry and develop new paths that lead to healthy and happy relationships. By working through the Rapid Advance exercises and questions, you will: learn to master your thoughts about relationships; never pick a loser again; create a satisfying, life-long partnership; challenge your long-held beliefs about relationships.

Why is it that when you meet the “right person,” you seem to know it’s “right” in a minute? But when you meet the “wrong person,” you don’t realize it’s “wrong” for at least a couple of years? We heard this joke on late night television and while we found it to be very amusing, we also saw a lot of truth in it. How many of you have remained in bad relationships with a “loser,” or more clinically, a maladjusted person, long after you knew being with that person was no longer helpful to your emotional health? Everyone wants love in their life. It seems to give purpose and meaning to just about everything we do. But some people’s idea of love can literally kill. You’ve probably heard the startling statistics that the number one person of interest in homicide investigations is the victim’s significant other. Talk about being with the wrong person! Why is it acceptable for many people to remain in relationships with abusers, misfits, deadbeats and losers? It’s an issue for you. You want to know. That’s why you bought this book. Rest assured, you are not alone. Everyone wants love in their life. We want you to have love in your life, but healthy love. The kind of love that helps you grow, brings out the best in you, and creates a lot of positive energy. Something is blocking your ability to attract that kind of love. This book will help you remove the obstacles to magnetizing a wonderful love in your direction and most of all help you to Just Stop Picking Losers!

Ellie has been in clinical practice for over 30 years. She also serves as a trainer, Divorce Coach and Child Specialist in Collaborative Divorce cases. She developed the Rapid Advance Process, a standardized five-session brief model of counseling that was presented at the American Counseling Association convention in Atlanta in 1997 and with Vicki Carpel Miller in Honolulu in 2008. Ellie is the author of The Bridge To I Am, a self-help book outlining the Rapid Advance Process used in the treatment of Vicarious Trauma and other life challenges. Ellie hosted a call-in radio show in Phoenix and served as Self-Help Editor for a nationally syndicated trade magazine. She runs several ongoing groups called the Encouragers where people meet to offer each other peace, support and acceptance. She is Co-Director of the Vicarious Trauma Institute and the Collaborative Divorce Institute, based in Scottsdale, Arizona.