- Genre:religion
- Sub-genre:Judaism / Orthodox
- Language:English
- Pages:267
- eBook ISBN:9781483517520
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Overview
The EndTheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World is the definitive book on what's really wrong in the shidduch world and what needs to be done to fix it. It contains 267 pages of straight talk, including a comprehensive analysis of the various layers of the problems, practical solutions that apply to the entire community, and a wealth of supporting Torah sources and ideas.
Features:
The shidduch world explained to aliens
How did we get here? And how do we get to a better way?
Real lessons from the Torah
The EndTheMadness Label Lexicon
Stupid and insensitive things people say to singles
The Dating Survival Guide for Orthodox Jewish Men
Calculate your value on the shidduch market!
Bitachon vs. Hishtadlus -- finding the right balance
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The EndTheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World is the definitive book on what's really wrong in the shidduch world and what needs to be done to fix it. It contains 267 pages of straight talk, including a comprehensive analysis of the various layers of the problems, practical solutions that apply to the entire community, and a wealth of supporting Torah sources and ideas.
CONTENTS
Introduction .............................. .............................1
The Problem
Chapter 1 – Truth Is Stranger Than Science Fiction ..................... 5
Chapter 2 – The Elusive and Illusive Quest for “Frumkeit” ......... 16
Chapter 3 – The Elimination of Natural Meetings ...................... 30
Chapter 4 – The Failure of the Matchmaking System ................. 35
Chapter 5 – Just Follow the Script .............................................. 42
Chapter 6 – The Rise of Feminism .............................................. 48
Chapter 7 – The Advancement of Technology ............................ 61
The EndTheMadness Label Lexicon .................................... 64
Chapter 8 – The Dreaded Shidduch Résumé .............................. 80
Chapter 9 – Stupid and Insensitive Things People Say To Singles ... 86
Chapter 10 – The Isolation of Singles ....................................... 100
Chapter 11 – False Hope (or what dating web sites should file for) .................... 102
The Solution
Chapter 1 – Wise Words from a Blind Man .............................. 107
Chapter 2 – The EndTheMadness Covenant ............................ 110
Chapter 3 – Natural Meetings ................................................... 131
Chapter 4 – Events for Singles (NOT Singles Events) ............... 141
Chapter 5 – Matchmaking ........................................................ 150
Chapter 6 – HotKiddush: Online Meetings Revolutionized ...... 162
Chapter 7 – The Role of Singles in the Solution ........................ 171
Chapter 8 – The Role of the Community .................................. 177
Chapter 9 – Dating More Than One Person at a Time ............. 180
Chapter 10 – When Should One Begin Dating? ........................ 184
Chapter 11 – Should One Wait for an Older Sibling? ............... 186
Chapter 12 – Icebreakers ........................................................... 188
Chapter 13 – Short Lessons from the Torah .............................. 189
Epilogue .................................................................................... 194
Appendix
The Dating Survival Guide for Orthodox Jewish Men .............. 197
The Shidduch Value Calculator................................................. 217
Debunking the Age Gap Theory ............................................... 226
The “Dhimmis” Among Us: Judaism’s Lower Class .................. 243
Appropriate Shidduch Questions ............................................... 251
Bitachon and Hishtadlus in Shidduchim (and elsewhere) .......... 256
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