Are You Serious, It's Just sex?

Make your sex talks with your teen less REactive and more PROactive with the knowledge of these frequently asked questions by parents of teens.

You’re so sexy when you take charge like that! Make your sex talks with your teen less REactive and more PROactive with the knowledge of these frequently asked questions by parents of teens. You may have started the sex talk with your teen and they let you know they had no questions and understood everything. You thought, Whew! I’m off the hook. Wrong. As you well know, there’s a lot to sex that has nothing to do with knowing where babies come from. One thing is certain, you want your teen to feel empowered when they make the decision to become sexually active whether that time is right for you or not. You might be struggling with explaining the emotional as well as the technical side of sex, many parents do. Well, I know the mystery of a great sex talk having talked with so many teens and their parents about teen sexuality. The Mystery is solvable and it starts with your understanding of their sexual development, their sexual health and you! I really am serious, it’s just sex! The hard part is the relationship. The relationship stuff is what creates doubt about choosing a partner and whether or not they should be sexually active with this person. It starts with knowing what is meant by all the pronouns that refer to sex, but don’t mention any of the emotional stuff that comes with it. Stop accusing them of being sexually active because someone said they were cute and focus on being the person they come to when they have questons about sex. That’s the best role YOU can have! This is the only way you can have an impact on their sexual self-esteem and empowerment. Yes, you need self-esteem and empowerment here too! “Are You Serious? It’s Just Sex!” e-book reveals how you can: •Understand the importance of going at your teen’s pace not yours when you bring up the topic of sex. •Find alternative ways to think about sexual orientation and birth control moral quandaries. •Discover variations of the sex talk and suggestions to get around obstacles that can make the sex talk more complicated so you still get the job done! •Learn advances in how the medical community thinks of the some female reproductive health issues like vaccines and the menstrual cycle. •Rise above common teen sex myths that have shaped how parents manage their teen’s sexuality.

Adekemi Oguntala, MD is TheTeenDoc maintains the blog at TheTeenDoc.com. In addition to being an adolescent medicine physician, she is an author, speaker and educator. She is recognized for her energetic, and hip approach to difficult adolescent issues such as eating disorders, club drugs, as well as sexual development, orientation and health. Dr. Oguntala received her medical training at Drexel University in Philadelphia, her pediatric training at Saint Christopher’s Hospital for Children also in Philadelphia, and her adolescent medicine training at Stanford University School of Medicine in Palo Alto, California. Following fellowship, Dr. Oguntala practiced at Oakland Children’s Hospital & Research Center at Oakland where she co-directed specialty clinics in asthma and overweight as well as general teen clinics at both hospital and school-based clinics. She currently heads the teen clinic at a Teen clinic in South San Francisco. There, she sees teens who with issues such as being over or under weight, use and abuse substances, have sexual orientation and gender identification issues, family planning and reproductive health concerns, depression, and victims of sexual, physical or verbal violence. Dr. Oguntala has presented at national conferences and educated medical students, residents, high school students, parents and teachers. A dynamic speaker whose lectures are consistently described as full of practical information, an excellent speaker whose energy and passion keep the audience attentive. Dr. Oguntala presents and discusses the difficult issues involving adolescent development that have traditionally challenged parents, teachers and healthcare professionals.