The Toolbox

The Toolbox gives you the twelve tools we ALL need to make our relationships work. Starting with "The Right Mindset" (Chapter 1) to "Self-Awareness (Chapter 12), The Toolbox will take you on a journey inside yourself and through every relationship you have. We all grew into adulthood and assembled the tools we needed for living: earning, working, budgeting, buying, selling, and homemaking. We have garages filled with tools to fix things. We have all the nuts and bolts for our favorite hobbies. But did we acquire the tools we need for the most important job of all: loving? The Toolbox is essential reading for anyone who wants to be healthy in their relationships. Don't settle for luck or chance. Get the tools you need, hone them, and watch your relationships transform.

You've just discovered The Toolbox, the book that will give you the basic tools you need to make your relationships work. Your relationships need more than your personality and good intentions... You need relational skills. And in order to develop skills, you need the right tools. You can't hammer a nail into a wall with a saw. You can't cut a box open with a sledge hammer. You need the right tools. Relationships are no different. You need the right tools when distance, disappointment, and disconnection set in. Are the same behaviors bringing you to the same unsatisfying results? Try a new set of tools. Welcome to The Toolbox: The Tools We Need to Build Relationships and Repair Them When They Break. It's an owners manual for relationships. Sure, you could figure things out through time, trial, and error, or you could just read The Toolbox... and get the tools you need.

Noted speaker and therapist, Vanessa specializes in helping clients discover the root cause of their mental and emotional distress and heal naturally through the therapeutic relationship. Using early childhood relationships as the framework for adult relational functioning, Vanessa works with her clients as they learn themselves: how they relate, what they did to "earn" love, and what patterns can be replaced with healthier ones. The relationship with the self is central to Vanessa's work. Through therapy, clients learn to know themselves, forgive themselves, like themselves, and eventually come to love themselves. This is the ultimate goal of the work. As an author, Vanessa seeks to move her knowledge and compassion for human nature from the therapy room onto the written page. She shares her personal journey in therapy, the lessons she's learned from brokenness, and the observations along the way. Read Vanessa's work if you want a straight-forward, compassionate, honest take on mental health. Don't be surprised if you find yourself crying, laughing, and ultimately stunned by the beauty of your own humanity.