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  • SubGenre:Love & Romance
  • Language:English
  • Pages:162
  • Paperback ISBN:9781667871936

It's Not About Communication!

Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong

by Dr. Bruce Chalmer View author's profile page

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We're Having Problems Communicating. Can Couples Therapy Help?

Yes! Couples therapy can help—but not by teaching you how to communicate. If you and your partner are having trouble, the problem isn't how you're communicating. The problem is what you're communicating.

Written in a relatable, easy to understand and sometimes irreverent style, It's Not About Communication! will not only help you understand the problems you're having--it will help you get on the path to solving them. Whether you're in couples therapy, thinking about it, or want to solve your problems on your own, this book will point you in the right direction.

And if you're a couples therapist yourself, this book will inspire you to work with your clients rather than on them--and help you regain that sense of dedication and purpose that led you to become a therapist in the first place.

Dr. Bruce Chalmer's It's Not About Communication! shows you just what you need from couples therapy.


You'll learn:

  • Why practicing communication rules and techniques is wasting your time
  • How a simple seven-word formula can guide you toward healing, growth, and passionate connection
  • Why a mindset of faith—not necessarily religious—is the key to successful couples therapy
  • How to decide if your couples therapy is helping—and what to do if it isn't
  • Why ideas open possibilities, and ideologies shut down possibilities—and why that's important for couples therapy
  • Why your couples therapist's advice is probably useless—and what you really need from your therapist
  • Why couples therapy is a lot like improv theater
  • Just how Dr. Chalmer structures his first session--which shows you how to set the therapy on a hopeful course right from the start

Whether you're looking to improve your own relationship, or helping others improve theirs, It's Not About Communication! will guide and inspire you.

About the author

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, writing, podcast, and videos about relationships, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists.

He has served in leadership positions in several Vermont Jewish communities, and is also a musician, composer, and choral director.

Dr. Chalmer is married to Judy Alexander, and together they produce the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast. For more information visit his website: https://brucechalmer.com

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