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About the Author

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Take Back Power from any Abusive Relationships. 

With a savagely battered faith and with very little left to live for, let alone lose; the question, "What is it going to take to become the person I was created to be ?"  is really what motivated me to write this particular book.

This devotional  (detox) workbook will help you unpack and identify the foundations of many of the emotional  struggles you have been experiencing due to demonic strongholds. 

But first, here are some insights on how this book came about and why I finally caved in and decided to do this book.

What is the message in this book that I want my readers to grasp?

No doubt different people will come away with different aspects of it that speaks to their situation. So whatever that is, even if it was one person; as long as it brings healing and restoration to their life in some way I'd be grateful that my opening up about my own struggles was worth it. But if there was one and only one message I'd like them to take away it would be that they would realize this: "You should never settle for less than God's best for you." 

What was the hardest part of writing this book?

Definitely going over and dealing with the guilt and shame of how I got to this point of my life, and the effect it would have on my children, and the way they perceive the concept of a "christian marriage." It was harder to begin and more difficult to finish, though grateful for the healing in the process,  I was never quite ready to relive the lies of my past failure--again, and certainly not publicly by writing a book. 

What did you learn while writing this book?

I thought I was a strong person and a woman of great faith. I realized just how frail and weak my faith had become and just how easily I was ready to give in when hit with adversity. But then I realized I had more fight left in me than I was led to believe by those who truly knew me. 

After many failed attempts to either finish or fund this book,  it's really an amazing thing to think my many painful lessons could possibly help anyone. But I truly pray it will. Whether you are single, engaged, married or divorce, but especially teens and young adults. It's a great gift to yourself or someone you truly care about. Writing it taught me to be authentic,  and to own my own brokenness, while breaking free from its shackles of shame.  They are so many women that still need to do this. Maybe it's you? And that's why you are here. But,  I learnt not to be in such a hurry to escape the known situation for the unknown. You might be in that place of uncertainty and might not be sure if you need to unlock those unknowns. Eg., "Why is it, that no matter how hard I try to be careful in choosing a significant other; I seem to end up in relationships that are self destructive"? If so, left unanswered, docile and unhealed you may spend your life reliving your painful past or parents' mistakes or worst be cut short in an effort to escape to live the life you deserve.  And so in the process I discovered how to prevent that past from doing this dysfunctional dance, and to recover from the abusive cycles by identifying the early warning signs aka red flags of toxic personalities. You will walk away so empowered in so many ways.  But, above all I learnt that  neither my past stagnancy or current emotional address is my permanent place of residency. Nor is it yours. You will get the tools in this book to change that, forever.  

Hey listen, in a generation that is all about self and selfies, loving one self is automatically assumed as self centered. However, healthy self love is what this book encourages. And ironically too--- due to the faulty thinking of narcissists, many people think that loving oneself is actually a bad thing.  But again, this title attributes loving oneself enough to know what you are worth and knowing when to walk away. To truly love one self begins with self acceptance. It's unreasonable to expect others to love you when you don't love yourself.  Today while you are here,  like me, I hope you are encourage to committing yourself to love more freely without the fear of failure, hurt or pain, because true love never fails. I invite you to love yourself, back to being whole.

Join me in  the fight to stop this silent epidemic. Walk out of the shadow of your shame. Like the Esther and  the Deborah that women of God  are called to be,  I say beloved sisters, come forth and love, lead and live for such a time, season as this! Listen,  the abuser isn't the only one that needs to be detoxed, once you have been in a toxic relationship, you will need to be detoxed,  as well. Don't let the abuse of your past dictate your future, health and happiness.    

Now my question to you is, "Are you committed to becoming an emotionally healthier and better version of you---today? Get a copy of this book, read it and share it with  someone you know needs it. Thank you for stopping by. Thank you for your purchase!