Tell Me What You're Thinking

Tell Me What You’re Thinking is a book of 117 simple, fun questions separated into 9 topic areas. They are meant to help any couple converse about topics important to them. They will help you to learn what your partner most likes, dislikes and cares about—and help them discover the same about you.

Tell Me What You’re Thinking will help you and your partner begin many rewarding conversations together about who you are and what’s important to you. These 117 simple, fun questions will help you learn what your partner most likes, dislikes and cares about—and will help them discover the same about you. The questions are separated into 9 topic areas. You may focus on one topic at a time so that your conversations stay focused on one aspect of your life together. Or you can open the book randomly to any question and mix them up. Either way, these questions can help your intimate partnership become deeper and more rewarding—one question, answer, and conversation at a time. Sit down with your partner and ask a question. Then simply listen, letting them answer it however they please, while you pay close attention. You’ll learn things about them you might never have learned otherwise. When they’re done answering, feel free to ask them more about their thoughts and feelings on the subject. Then it’s your partner’s turn to ask you a question. You may answer the same question or choose another at random. Enjoy!

Dr. Jan Hoistad is the innovator of the Big Picture Partnering approach to relationship success. She is passionate about helping professionals, business owners, partners, and teams develop the skills necessary to achieve success and fulfillment in both their occupational pursuits and personal lives. In the process she has advised numerous professional couples, helping them to develop deeper connection and mutual decision-making skills to achieve both their personal and professional, individual and couple goals.