In his only advice on sex to the author, one rainy afternoon, his father commented on a friend’s ongoing divorce where the wife contended that she, mother of eight children, had never had an orgasm in 20 years of marriage. His father sadly shook his head and said that if a woman does not achieve an orgasm, it means that sex to her is just another sticky mess. From this rainy afternoon, came the foundation for this book: Sex has to be a two person journey where each partner in the journey should be committed to satisfying the other. Women have always met this commitment. Should not women expect the same commitment from men? And what does this mean practically? In six chapters and six areas the author reveals the techniques, attitudes and behaviors that separate good lovers from poor ones. He contends that these have to extend beyond the orgasm and beyond the bedroom – since how we treat each other out of bed, the other 99% of the time IS tremendously important to sexual satisfaction for both partners. How can you dramatically improve your chances of having mutually satisfying sexual encounters with your spouse, lover, one-night-friend? You will know after reading in this book about the “complete love making” process that provides you with the missing links that enable you to have soul shattering experiences in bed … every time!
On the practical side, the book discusses disease and pregnancy, both of which can result in a woman having an even less satisfying experience than just a sticky mess between her legs. Principally, what is discussed is how to avoid disease and pregnancy, if desired, so that both partners can relax, a prerequisite to having truly satisfying sex, especially for the woman. The main chapter discusses in detail the attitude a man should have when engaging in sex with a woman. The goal should be her sexual enjoyment and ultimately her sexual satisfaction. Placing her needs ahead of ours, ours will not only be satisfied but will be even more enjoyable for us. The following chapter discusses the importance of good hygiene making sex an olfactory pleasant experience … rather than just two pigs wrestling in the dirt. This is followed by a discussion of how men and women should treat each other, out of the bed. Sex only takes up a brief period of time and between those encounters both partners need to interact with each other, talk, do things. How we men as sensitive lovers treat women during these “off times” will have a huge impact on how satisfying our partner found the sex you just had and if she would want to engage in it again. The last chapter discusses how women can save some time by spotting jerks who will eventually lead to sexual disappointing encounters. In sum, this book is for men who wish to be better lovers, for women who no longer want to feel inadequate or guilty, and for young adults who with this book get a very practical directory into the adventure of a happy sex life – without too many sticky messes.