A lot of men and women are not grateful for their spouses or thankful for their marriages. Just because there seems to be a problem doesn’t mean you should hate your partner. Remember the vows you took. Things can’t always be rosy. The earlier you deal with that, the better. You took your marriage vows before God and people. Those weren’t mere words. A wise couple would prepare themselves for the not-so-good times by getting on their knees to pray – pray for strength to last through the tough times. Your partner is flesh and blood, just like you so mistakes will be made. It’s your duty to understand, forgive and give them space and time to grow. Married life is such a beautiful thing, when two people come together as one. I love to see couples who’ve been married many years and are still very much in love and still all over each other. That kind of commitment takes hard work. Marriage is a two-way thing; both parties have to give in their all to ensure the relationship lasts and grows from strength to strength. It takes a conscious effort on the part of both husband and wife. It’s not meant for one party to handle alone. Both parties, in agreement, can keep a marriage going. If you’re single and hoping to get married someday, that’s a good dream. Prayers and perseverance will keep you going until then. If you’re married as you read these lines, I just want to remind you of how important it is to make your husband/wife feel loved. Here are a few tips you could use on a daily basis; your partner would be delighted at the pleasant surprises.
1.Cook your husband’s favourite meal often not just on special occasions. It’d make him feel loved and you’d receive a loving response in return.
2.When you want to speak to him about something, speak in a sweet voice. He’s more likely to listen than when you nag. Men don’t like nagging. It puts them off. A sweet voice attracts him, tunes him in to what you’re saying.
3.Learn to give him grace. Don’t immediately accuse him if you’re not sure about the situation. It’s like you were waiting all along to catch him red-handed. Don’t make him feel he’s being investigated. You’re his wife and not a boss.
4.Listen to him when he’s got the need to talk about something. Don’t interrupt un-necessarily. Genuinely listen. It pulls you both closer together and strengthens your bond.
5.Don’t gossip or discuss your husband’s weaknesses behind his back to co-workers or friends. It’s dis-respectful. It not only disrespects him, it dis-respects you as well since you two are one.
1.Learn to complement your wife often. If she’s wearing a gorgeous dress or has a new hairstyle, notice it and complement her. Women sometimes wish their husbands would take note of these details. It may mean nothing to you but it does for them. If she’s changed the bed-sheets, trimmed the bushes or done some other chore, complement her. It’d give her a boost.
2.When she has a need to talk, give her time. Listen to her. Drop the paper, drop the remote and if possible, switch off the TV, so she knows there is TV-time and then there is “HER-time” were it’s about her – her goals, dreams, etcetera
3.If she needs help with some chore, be a good husband, help her out. It brings you two closer together, when you do chores together. You’d be surprised, it’d bring you both closer, in whole new ways you never thought possible.
4.Give her grace. Your wife’s human. She’s bound to make mistakes. Understand this and forgive her wrongs just as easily as you want yours forgotten.
5.Never gossip about your wife to co-workers, friends or family. If there’s something wrong, discuss it maturely – just you and your wife.