Login to Your Life

Do you ever look around and see what an electronically saturated society we are? Go out to a restaurant and take a look around. The majority of us fill our lives with our cell phones, computer games and social media. My work and my experience personally and professionally lead me to propose that this society is out of balance. We are spending too much time on things that don’t matter (What I call “On Demand”fulfillment- social media, internet relationships, texting, video games ) and not enough time on things that do (connecting on a deeper emotional level, communicating face to face, enjoying the small gifts of life, setting and working toward goals, engaging our senses). Login to your life will describe these issues with case examples, and help you to identify where you may be impacted by the "On Demand" issues of today, from parenting, to relationships, to public drama and humiliation. It offers guidance in how to move forward, to include finding more meaningful ways to spend your time, to make your life more satisfying.

Login to your life will be a brief overview (12,600 words) of the "on demand" issues that currently plague our society. The Problem- My work and my experience personally and professionally lead me to propose that this society is out of balance. A lot of the relationships today (from our spouses and children, to friends, coworkers, high school friends, friends you don’t really know--hopefully you don’t have those) involve a shallow attachment and imbalance of closeness and reciprocity, which leads to not getting our emotional needs met and then having anxiety. We are spending too much time on things that don’t matter (What I call “On Demand” fulfillment- social media, internet relationships, texting, video games) and not enough time on things that do (connecting on a deeper emotional level, communicating face to face, enjoying the small gifts of life, setting and working toward goals, engaging our senses). We are not satisfied with relationships in this fashion and some end up feeling dissatisfied with their lives. The tank will not get filled with quick fixes. Progress is important, but it is also important to remember to prioritize and make sure your investment to your priorities is in check. Learn to embrace and be grateful for the little things, the small gifts in life.

For many years I have had books “in my head” and now I have put one down on paper. My work as a family therapist, experiences as a competitive athlete and living as a wife and mother have guided me to a life of observation. As a therapist I get the privilege of knowing peoples intimate thoughts, behaviors, feelings and relationships. This intimate view has helped me to develop ideas and recognize patterns of peoples behaviors, related to the societal trends. As an athlete, I have the experience of internally analyzing and digging deep into my own thoughts, feelings and behaviors. But being a wife and mother is what has helped me to reach a level of understanding like nothing else. Intimate relationships are the most rewarding, but also the most work. All of these facets of my life have led to me to where I am today, full of ideas I want to share.