The list of what I don't know is infinite. What I do know now is that if you are not paying attention there are at least 50 ways to sabotage your future success when entering a new phase of your life.

For instance, if you like to dance, make sure there is a dance floor. Two minus one does not equal two. Failure is how utility companies explain power outages. Set your alarm instead of waiting for the wake-up call. Procrastination is not FDA-approved. Lose the Spanx, not the latex. Before drawing a sword make sure there is a dragon to slay.

Consider this book as an adult set of water wings for the person struggling to stay afloat outside their comfort zone in the face of the ending of a relationship, loss of employment or loved one, financial crisis, change in family dynamic or responsibilities, health crisis, or any circumstance where your life has become different and you feel a loss of control. For those of you who are already proficient in water ballet, pass this book along to a friend who is too busy dog-paddling to realize a life ring would come in handy about now. 

I wrote this book for women of all ages who, by intention or circumstances, find themselves going through a transition that has become tougher than expected or simply "stuck" and don't know how to become "unstuck." My transition began with a divorce, but the lessons I learned speak to the pitfalls and detours that come with any change – particularly when escaping to a private island paradise is not really an option.

You are in survival mode, but you want more for yourself and your family. The fear, pain, anger is palpable, but deep down you know you will get past this, and be stronger for it. You want comfort and a trail guide for what to expect as you move past what seems like an impossible obstacle.

I am hopeful my own experiences will bring you comfort, but most importantly strike a chord in your own life. My hope is that you will be inspired to push the pause button as you make small and big decision during this crossroads to avoid further heartache and save you precious time. This book will help you realize that you have more control over your life than you realize right at this moment.

If I can help you to harness your own power during a time where you feel powerless, I will have achieved my goal.

SUSAN G. LAUERMANN is a mother devoted to her children, a daughter, grateful for her parents' health, a sister, doing her best to encourage and support, a friend, ready to lend a hug and smile, and professionally focused on helping others realize their full potential. Previously, she was a senior-level public relations professional for over 30 years, creating strategies and initiatives for companies focused on the people-side of change management.